Jewish Polygamists


Plural Marriage in Jewish History

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Overview

Technically, the form of marriage being discussed is most precisely called "polygyny", where one man
marries more than one woman at the same time. Many of the leading men of the Bible had more than one
wife in some form of marriage relationship at the same time. This includes Abraham, Jacob (Israel),
Moses, David and others. The Law that Moses gave also made provision for plural marriage and in some
cases, it seems that plural marriage was even commanded by the Law of Moses. There is evidence that
multiple wives was an acceptable practice all through ancient Israel, including the time of Christ and it was
not until the end of the 1st Millennium AD that some Jews officially rejected polygyny. One branch of
Jews never agreed to this and still accept the practice of plural wives to this day.
 

Wives and Concubines

As we discuss this, we should keep in mind that the Bible describes both "wives" and "concubines". Many
people suppose that a concubine is someone not really married to the man, whereas the wife is the one
who is married. This is a modern usage for the word "concubine" and is not how it was used anciently.
That the word "concubine" means "wife" in ancient times is shown by some examples from the Bible:

     • In Gen. 25:1, Keturah is called Abraham's wife. However, in 1 Chron. 1:32 Keturah is called a
     concubine.

     • In another instance, Nathan, the prophet tells David, "I will take thy wives before thine eyes, and
     give them unto thy neighbor, and he shall lie with thy wives in the sight of this sun" 2 Sam. 12:11.
     later in the same book, the fulfillment of this prophecy is recorded: "And Absalom went in unto his
     father's concubines in the sight of all Israel;" (2 Sam. 16:22)

Thus, the term "concubine" in the Bible appears to be synonymous with "wife", though it is only applied
to plural wives. Many experts agree that the term was particularly used to describe second class wives.
This "second class" status was important for inheritance. Children of wives were sons of the patriarch and
they obtained full inheritances from their fathers. Children of concubines were sons of the concubine and
had no inheritances, though they received gifts during the lifetimes of the patriarchs. Thus we read:

 And Abraham gave all that he had unto Isaac. But unto the sons of the concubines, which Abraham
had, Abraham gave gifts, and sent them away from Isaac his son, while he yet lived, eastward, unto
 the east country. (Genesis 25:5-6 )

Abraham Married 3 Women

The first patriarch that the Bible shows in a plural marriage relationship is Abra(ha)m. In Genesis 11:29
we find the account of Abra(ha)m being married to Sara(i/h):

     And Abram and Nahor took them wives: the name of Abram's wife [was] Sarai; and the name of
     Nahor's wife, Milcah, the daughter of Haran, the father of Milcah, and the father of Iscah.

However, Sara(i/h) was barren and had no children. To alleviate this situation and provide an heir for her
husband, Sara(i/h) gave her husband a second wife:

     "And Sarai, Abram's wife, took Hagar her maid, the Egyptian,…and gave her to her husband Abram
     to be his wife;" (Gen. 16:3)

The Lord was evidently not displeased for in speaking of the child of this polygynous marriage he said, "I
will make him fruitful, and will multiply him exceedingly; twelve princes shall he beget and I will make
him a great nation;" (Gen 17:20). He also blessed Abraham exceedingly shortly after the second marriage.

In addition to the marriage to Hagar, Abraham also took another wife:

     Again Abraham took a wife, and her name was Keturah. (Genesis 25:1)

Thus, Abraham had three wives: Sarah, Hagar, and Keturah. Abraham, considered in the Bible to be the
"friend of God", was held up by both Jews and Christians as the example of a good and faithful life.
 

Jacob Married 4 Women

Abraham's Grandson was Jacob. He served Laban seven years for Rachel, but Laban deceived him, and
Leah became his wife instead. So he served another seven years for Rachel. He married them both and
they were both wives. The account of this service, Laban's deception and the two marriages can be found
in Genesis 29:18-35 and 30:3-12. In addition one can also read about how each of these wives had a
handmaid and Jacob was given each of these handmaids as concubines and they also had children by him.
Thus Jacob had four wives according to scripture.

Jacob was renamed Israel by the Lord and by each of these four women, he had children. In all, from
these four wives, he had 12 sons who became the Patriarchs of the 12 Tribes of Israel. The sons who
obtained the most significant blessings were Judah and Joseph. Judah was the son of the first wife, Leah
and Joseph was the son of the second wife, Rachel.

Moses Married 2 Women

Moses, after fleeing Egypt, was in the land of Midian. There "he sat down by a well" where "seven
daughters" of the "priest of Midian" "came and drew water". (Exodus 2:15-16). After protecting these
daughters from some attackers, Moses became a house guest "and Moses was content to dwell with the
man: and he gave Moses Zipporah his daughter." (Exodus 2:21)

However, we find that Moses did not just marry this Midianite woman named Zipporah. We do not know
the name of his second wife, but we know it happened because the scriptures say " he had married an
Ethiopian woman." and this marriage was of concern for some unstated reason to his sister. (Numbers
12:1).

Thus Moses was married to at least two women.

King David Married At Least 4 Women With the Approval of the Lord

David, king of Israel took Abigail and Ahinoam, "and they were also both of them his wives;" (1 Sam.
25:42-43). Then he "took him more concubines and wives out of Jerusalem;" (2 Sam. 5:13). With two
wives and concubines (plural) he at this time had at least 4 wives. The Bible later says that "David did
that which was right in the eyes of the Lord, and turned not aside from anything that he commanded him
all the days of his life, save only in the matter of Uriah the Hittite;" (1 Kings 15:5). In this passage we
have an assurance that David done right in taking all his wives and concubines, except in one instance, for
which he was severely chastised. In the case of Uriah the Hittite, David committed adultery with his wife,
and then had Uriah killed in the Battlefield. This was adultery and murder and it was condemned by the
Lord, but his prior marriages were, according to the Bible, approved as "right in the eyes of the Lord".
 

Other Polygynist Marriages in the Bible

 

From the evidence of the Bible, plural marriage was not uncommon in Israel. Not only did these
previously mentioned patriarchs and great men of Israel have more than one wife, but it is clear that other
lesser individuals did as well. At least 10 individuals are also recorded in the Bible as having had more
than one wife:

             Judges 8:30          Gideon, a man highly favored of the Lord, had three score and ten sons and
                                        many wives.
             Judges 9:5            Jerubbaal had seventy sons, which would be impossible without polygyny.
             Judges 10:3-4       Jair, a judge in Israel, had thirty sons.
             Judges 12:13-14    Abdon, a Judge in Israel, had forty sons.
             I Sam 1:1-2          Elkanah had two wives. His son, Samuel, was a great prophet, and judge in
                                        Israel. He was born, and lived under the special favor of God.
             1 Chron. 4:5         Ashur, the father of Tekoa, had two wives.
             1 Chron. 8:8         Shaharaim had two wives.
             2 Chron. 11:21      Rehoam had eighteen wives and three score concubines.
             2 Chron. 13:21      Abijah married fourteen wives.
             2 Chron. 24:3        Jehoida, the priest of God, took two wives.

In every instance shown above, plural marriage is not recorded as something exceptional or strange, but as
rather ordinary and commonplace. The statements are made in an off-hand matter-of-fact manner. Thus,
it is no surprise when respected Orientalists such as W. M. Flinders Petrie in speaking about ancient
Hebrew marriages says: "polygamy was usual" (W. M. Flinders Petrie, Egypt and Israel, p. 24.)

The Law of Moses Permits Plural Marriage

When Moses took a second wife, he was not in violation of the Law given to him by the Lord. That law
does not prohibit plural marriage and in fact, recognized the possibility of multiple wives:

 If a man have two wives, one beloved, and another hated, and they have born him children, both
the beloved and the hated; and [if] the firstborn son be hers that was hated: then it shall be, when he
 maketh his sons to inherit that which he hath, that he may not make the son of the beloved firstborn
     before the son of the hated, which is indeed the firstborn. (Deuteronomy 21:15-16)

In fact, the Law of Moses sometimes may have commanded Plural Marriage. When a woman's husband
died, the Lord commanded that a brother of the husband was supposed to take her as his wife. (Deut.
5:4-10.) If he was already married, then at that point he would have had two wives. The Law as given to
Moses does not mind that.

 

Jewish Polygyny in the Christian Era

Plural marriage was still acceptable among the Jews in the days of Jesus. In fact, he uses a plural wedding
in one of his most famous parables:

     Then shall the kingdom of heaven be likened unto ten virgins, which took their lamps, and went
     forth to meet the bridegroom. And five of them were wise, and five were foolish. They that were
     foolish took their lamps, and took no oil with them: But the wise took oil in their vessels with their
     lamps. While the bridegroom tarried, they all slumbered and slept. And at midnight there was a cry
     made, Behold, the bridegroom cometh; go ye out to meet him. Then all those virgins arose, and
     trimmed their lamps. And the foolish said unto the wise, Give us of your oil; for our lamps are gone
     out. But the wise answered, saying, Not so; lest there be not enough for us and you: but go ye rather
     to them that sell, and buy for yourselves. And while they went to buy, the bridegroom came; and
     they that were ready went in with him to the marriage: and the door was shut. Afterward came also
     the other virgins, saying, Lord, Lord, open to us. But he answered and said, Verily I say unto you, I
     know you not. (Matthew 25:1-12)

Interestingly, Martin Luther, recognizing that Jesus did not condemn and may have subtly condoned
polygyny, later declared Polygyny to be an acceptable Christian practice.

Many Jews Accept Polygyny Today

In the various Diaspora periods, Jewish customs changed. Over time, plural marriage became less
common generally among European Jews. About the year 1000, Rabbi Gershom ben Judah reportedly
issued an edict (Herem de-Rabbenu Gershom) which was considered authoritative among Ashkenazi
Jews. This edict substantially prohibited plural marriage. One exception was allowed: A man could marry
more than one wife if he obtained the special permission of 100 rabbis in 3 countries. Originally,
Gershom's ban was limited in time to the year 1260, however it has continued to be accepted by Jews of
Europe and the Western World to this day.

However, Rabbi Gershom's ban was not accepted by all Jews. In particular, Shephardic Jews (Yemenite
Jews for example), still take plural wives though in most cases this is limited to four according to the
custom of the surrounding Moslem culture. Culture is significant in this question for Jews. Where custom
allows such things, the Jewish laws tend to go along.

An interesting example is the modern Jewish State of Israel. Generally speaking, Israel does not allow new
plural marriages, but polygynous families who immigrate can continue to live in plural marriage
arrangements. Israel today makes plural marriage a criminal offense. However, even under this restriction
there are some cases that allow for plural marriage:

     "for Jewish citizens (of Israel) no offense is committed if permission to marry a second wife was
     given by a final judgment of a rabbinical court and approved by the two chief rabbis of Israel. The
     latter's approval is accepted as conclusive proof that the permission was given according to the law.
     Special provisions relating to the grant of this permission are laid down in the Takkanot ha-Diyyun
     be-Vattei ha-Din ha-Rabbaniyyim be-Yisrael, 5720-1960." (Howard Landman, Jews and Polygamy)

Polygamy in the Bible and Jewish Law

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Bible

Genesis 4:             Lamech took two wives
Genesis 28:           Esau takes an additional wife, Mahalath
Genesis 30:           Jacob, Leah, Rachel, Bilhah, and Zilpah (From which come the tribes of Israel)
Genesis 36:           Esau takes two more Canaanite wives
Deuteronomy 21:  Inheritance law when a man has two wives
Judges 8:              Gideon had many wives
I Samuel 1:           Elkanah and his wives Hannah & Peninnah
I Samuel 25:         David takes Abigail and Ahinoam as wives
II Samuel 5:          David takes further wives and concubines
I Kings 11:           Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines (wow!)
I Kings 20:           Implies King Ahab had multiple wives
II Kings 24:          King Jehoiachin had multiple wives
I Chronicles 2:      A lot of begatting via multiple wives
I Chronicles 4:      Ashur had two wives, Helah and Naarah
I Chronicles 8:      Shaharaim had two wives, Hushim and Baara
I Chronicles 14:    David takes more wive at Jerusalem
II Chronicles 11:   Rehoboam had 18 wives and 60 concubines
II Chronicles 13:   Abijah marries 14 wives
II Chronicles 21:   King Jehoram had multiple wives
II Chronicles 24:   Jehoiada had two wives
Daniel 5:              King Belshazzar had wives and concubines
 

Jewish Law

In Jewish law the concept of bigamy (or polygamy) can involve either (1) a married women (eshet ish) purporting to contract a second marriage to another man (or to other men) during the subsistence of her first marriage; or (2) a married man contracting marriages to other women during the subsistence of his first marriage. These two aspects must be considered separately.
 

(1) Relating to Women

The general principle is that "a woman cannot be the wife of two [men]" (Kid. 7a and Rashi). In relation to a wife the term kiddushin implies her exclusive dedication to her husband. There can therefore be no kiddushin between her and another man while the first kiddushin subsists, and a purported marriage to another man is thus totally invalid. Nevertheless, such a bigamous "marriage" does incur severe legal
consequences -- primarily because of the law that sexual intercourse between a married woman and a man other than her husband (i.e., adultery) results in her subsequently being prohibited to both men forever and she then requires a get ("divorce") from both of them (see *Divorce, *Adultery). She requires a divorce from her husband, mi-de-Oraita ("according to biblical law"), because, although her adultery renders her prohibited to him, her legal marriage to him continues to subsist. To resolve this paradox she needs a get. She also requires a divorce from her adulterous "husband," mi-de-Rabbanan ("according to rabbinical enactment") -- even though her marriage to him is invalid -- so that people, ignorant of the true facts and perhaps under the impression that her second "marriage" was a valid one, should not be misled into thinking that she is free of him without a proper divorce (Yev. 88b and Rashi; Maim. Yad, Gerushin 10:5; Sh. Ar., EH 17:56). Notwithstanding her divorce by both men, on the death of either of them she     continues prohibited to the survivor forever (Sot. 27b; Yev. 87b and 88b; Yad, Gerushin, 10:4-5; Sh. Ar., EH 17:56). The aforementioned consequences result whether the bigamous "marriage" was intentional or inadvertent; e.g., if the woman was incorrectly informed by two witnesses of her legal husband's death (Yev. 87b; Yad, Gerushin 10:4 and Sh. Ar.,EH 17:56). If, in spite of the said prohibitions, she does subsequently contract a later marriage with either of the two men, such a later marriage is a prohibited one (see Prohibited *Marriages) and must be dissolved (Maim. Yad, Gerushin 10:4). Further legal consequences of a woman's bigamous "marriage" are that her children of the second, adulterous, union are classed as *mamzerim according to biblical law and also that her financial rights are affected (Yev. 87b).

(2) Relating to Men

The law is different in the case of a married man who takes a second wife while still married. According to Jewish law this second marriage (and any others) is valid and can therefore only be dissolved by death or divorce (Yev. 65a; Piskei ha-Rosh, ibid., 17; Yad, Ishut, 14:3; Sh. Ar., EH 1:9; 76:7). Permitted according to biblical law, polygamy was practiced throughout the talmudic period and thereafter until the
tenth century (Piskei ha-Rosh to Yev. 65a; Sh. Ar., EH 1:9). Already in amoraic times, however, the practice was frowned upon by the sages, who prescribed that polygamy was permissible only if the husband was capable of properly fulfilling his marital duties toward each of his wives (see *Marriage). The opinion was also expressed that if a man takes a second wife, he must divorce his first wife, if the
latter so demands, and pay her ketubbah (Yev. 65a; Alfasi, Piskei ha-Rosh, and Sh. Ar., EH 1:9). Similarly, according to talmudic law, a man may not take a second wife if he has specifically undertaken to his first wife, e.g., in the ketubbah, not to do so (Sh. Ar., EH 76:8). Taking a second wife is also forbidden wherever *monogamy is the local custom since such custom is deemed an implied condition
of the marriage, it being presumed that the wife only wishes to marry in accordance with local custom (Sh. Ar., EH 1:9; Beit Shemu'el, ibid., 20; Helkat Mehokek, ibid., 15, 76:8). Generally, the husband can only be released from this restriction with his wife's consent (loc. cit.; Darkhei Moshe, EH 1:1, n. 8; Sh. Ar., EH 76).
 

Herem de-Rabbenu Gershom

Substance Of The Ban

In the course of time and for varying reasons (Ozar ha-Posekim, EH 1 1:61, 2), it became apparent that there was a need for the enactment of a general prohibition against polygamy, independent of the husband's undertaking to this effect. Accordingly, relying on the principle of endeavoring to prevent matrimonial strife (which principle had already been well developed in talmudic law) Rabbenu *Gershom b. Judah and his court enacted the *takkanah prohibiting a man from marrying an additional wife unless specifically permitted to do so on special grounds by at least 100 rabbis from three "countries" (i.e., districts; see below). This takkanah, known as the Herem de-Rabbenu Gershom, also prohibited a husband from divorcing his wife against her will. Various versions of the takkanah exist (Ozar ha-Posekim, EH 1:61, 1) and, indeed, scholars have even questioned the historical accuracy of ascribing its authorship to Rabbenu Gershom. This, however, does not in any way affect its validity.
Since the prohibition against polygamy is derived from this takkanah and not from any undertaking given by the husband to his wife, she is not competent to agree to a waiver of its application, lest she be subjected to undue influence by her husband (Sh. Ar., EH 1:10; Ozar ha-Posekim, EH 1:61, 5). Nevertheless, if the husband does enter into a further marriage it will be considered legally valid (Tur, EH 44; Darkhei Moshe, ibid., n. I; Sh. Ar., EH 44; Beit Shemu'el 11), but as a prohibited marriage, and the first wife can require the court to compel the husband to divorce the other woman. Since the first wife cannot be obliged to live with a zarah ("rival"), she may also ask that the court order (but not compel) the husband to give her (i.e., the first wife) a divorce (Sh. Ar., EH 154; Pithe Teshuvah, 5; PDR vol. 7, pp. 65-74, 201-6). The husband continues to be liable to maintain his wife until he complies with the court's order -- even though they are living apart -- because as long as he refuses to divorce her he is preventing her from remarrying and thus being supported by another husband (Keneset ha-Gedolah, EH 1, Tur 16-17; PDR vol. 7 p.74). However, if the first wife and the husband agree on a divorce and this is carried out, he is then released from his obligation to divorce his second wife, although his marriage to her in the first place was in defiance of the prohibition (Sh. Ar., Pithei Teshuvah, 5; Ozar ha-Posekim, EH 1: 80,1 and 2).
 

Applicability Of The Herem As To Time And Place

Many authorities were of the opinion that the validity of the herem was, from its inception, restricted as to both time and place. Thus, it is stated: "He [Rabbenu Gershom] only imposed the ban until the end of the fifth millennium," i.e., until the year 1240 (Sh. Ar., EH 1:10); others, however, were of the opinion that no time limit was placed on its application. At any rate, even according to the first opinion the herem remained in force after 1240, since later generations accepted it as a binding takkanah. Accordingly, the herem, wherever it was accepted (see below), now has the force of law for all time (Resp. Rosh 43: 8; Sh. Ar., EH 1:10; Arukh ha-Shulhan, EH 1:23 Ozar ha-Posekim, EH 1: 76). In modern times it is customary, in some communities, to insert in the ketubbah a clause against the husband's taking an additional wife "in accordance with the takkanah of Rabbenu Gershom...." However, the prohibition is binding on the husband, even though omitted from the ketubbah, as such omission is regarded as a "clerical error" (Keneset ha-Gedolah, EH 1, Tur 17; Arukh ha-Shulhan EH 1:23). The herem did not extend to those countries where it was apparent that the takkanah had never been accepted (Sh. Ar., EH 1:10). In a country where the acceptance of the takkanah is in doubt, however, its provisions must be observed (Arukh ha-Shulhan, EH 1: 23). In general it can be said that the herem has been accepted as binding among Ashkenazi communities, but not among the Sephardi and most of the Oriental communities. This is apparently because in those countries where Ashkenazim formed the main part of the Jewish community, as in Europe, America, or Australia where European Jews migrated, polygamy was also forbidden by the dominant religion, Christianity, and therefore by the secular law. This was not the case in Oriental countries, as in Yemen, Iraq, and North Africa, polygamy being permitted in Islam (Arukh ha-Shulhan and Ozar ha-Posekim, loc. cit.). Thus, Maimonides, who was a Sephardi, makes no reference at all to the herem. In practice, therefore, to prohibit polygamy Oriental communities would customarily insert an express provision in the ketubbah, whereby the husband was precluded from taking an additional wife except with the consent of his first wife or with the permission of the bet din. As this provision was a condition of the marriage, any breach thereof entitled the wife to demand either that her husband complied with the provision, i.e., by divorcing the second wife, or that she be granted a divorce with payment of her ketubbah (Sedei Hemed, Asefat Dinim, Ishut 2; Keneset ha-Gedolah, EH 1, Beit Yosef 13, 16; Ozar ha-Posekim, ibid., 1:80, 8; PDR 7:65). People who move from a country where the herem is binding to a country where it is not, or vice versa, are subject to the following rules: (1) the ban adheres to the individual, i.e., it accompanies him from place to place and he always remains subject to it (Arukh ha-Shulhan, loc. cit.; Ozar ha-Posekim, EH 1:75, 1; Sh. Ar., EH 1); (2) local custom is followed, so that if the herem applies to a particular country it is binding on everyone, irrespective of their country of origin (Arukh ha-Shulhan, ibid.; Ozar ha-Posekim, ibid. and 1:75, 3; Keneset ha-Gedolah, EH, Beit Yosef, 22). Both these rules are strictly applied with the intent of extending the operation of the herem as widely as possible. On the other hand, if a man legally married two wives in a country where this was permitted, he is not obliged to divorce either of them on arriving in another country where the herem is in force, as the law is only infringed by his taking an additional wife and not when a man already has two (Arukh ha-Shulhan, ibid.).
 

Release From The Prohibition

The object of prohibiting bigamy is to prevent a man from marrying a second wife as long as he is not legally entitled to dissolve his first marriage. Thus, in order to avoid any circumvention of the prohibition, the herem also generally prohibits divorce against the will of the wife. This double prohibition may, however, result in the husband being unjustifiably fettered in circumstances where he would not otherwise be required by law to maintain his ties with his wife -- and yet may not divorce her against her will. This can, therefore, be obviated by the availability of a hetter ("release") from the herem against bigamy, which is granted by the bet din in the appropriate circumstances. This hetter does not mean that the first wife is divorced, but that the husband is granted exceptional permission to contract an additional marriage. Naturally, such a step is only taken if the court, after a full investigation of the relevant facts, is satisfied that a release is legally justified. Thus, for example, a release would be granted in a case where a wife becomes insane. Her husband cannot, therefore, maintain normal married life with her, a fact which would ordinarily entitle him to divorce her; this he cannot do because of her legal incapacity to consent. However, as the first marriage must continue to subsist, the husband remains liable to support his wife -- including medical costs -- but he is permitted by the court to take an additional wife (Bah, EH 119; Sh. Ar., EH l; Beit Shemu'el 1, n. 23; 119, n.6; Helkat Mehokek, ibid, 10-12; Ozar ha-Posekim, EH 1:72, 19). Should the first wife subsequently recover her sanity she cannot demand that her husband divorce his second wife, as he married her in accordance with the law. On the contrary, the husband would be entitled -- and even obliged -- to divorce his first wife, so as not to remain with two wives, and if she refuses to accept his get he would be free from any further marital obligations towards her, save for the payment of her ketubbah (Sh. Ar., EH l; Beit Shemu'el, ibid.; Ozar ha-Posekim, EH 1:72, 17-18; PDR 3:271). However, the hetter would be revoked if the first wife recovered her mental capacity before the second marriage took place (Sh. Ar., EH 1, Pithei Teshuvah, 16, concl.; Ozar ha-Posekim, EH 1:72, 14).
On the strength of the aforementioned rule, a release from the herem may also be obtained by a man whose wife refuses to accept a get from him, despite the court's order that she does so, e.g., in the case of her adultery or where the marriage is a prohibited one (Sh. Ar., EH 1:10; Helkat Mehokek, ibid., 16; Ozar ha-Posekim, EH 1:63, 7). Some authorities are of the opinion that in the event of the wife's adultery the husband only requires a hetter from a regular court and not from 100 rabbis, since the herem was not meant for such a case (Ozar ha-Posekim, EH 1:73, 2). A hetter would be justified where a wife who has had no children during a marriage which has subsisted for at least ten years -- a fact which entitles the husband to divorce her -- refuses to accept the get and thus prevents her husband from remarrying and fulfilling the mitzvah to "be fruitful and multiply." In such a case the husband is obliged to take another wife to fulfill the mitzvah and so he would be entitled to the hetter (Sh. Ar., EH 1:10; Ozar ha-Posekim, EH 1:68; Arukh ha-Shulhan, EH 1:25). As has already been stated, in Oriental communities for a husband to take a second wife requires either his first wife's consent or the court's permission. The wife is required to give her consent before a regular court (not 100 rabbis) and the court will permit the second marriage only if satisfied, after a thorough investigation of the facts, that the wife has consented wholeheartedly, without anger or under undue influence (Ozar ha-Posekim, EH 1:61, 5, subsec. 3; Sedei Hemed, Asefat Dinim, Ishut 2). Without her consent, the court will generally only grant a release to the husband in such cases where it would do so were the herem to apply (Sedei Hemed; Ozar ha-Posekim, ibid.), since it is presumed that the husband's undertaking the ketubbah is given on the understanding that no circumstances shall exist which, if the herem were to apply, would warrant his release from the prohibition (Sedei Hemed, ibid.; Ozar ha-Posekim, EH 1:72, 9).
 

Procedure For Granting The Hetter

After the court has decided that a release from the herem should be granted, the matter is referred to 100 rabbis of three "countries" (Ozar ha-Posekim, EH 1:61, 9) for approval and, if so approved, the hetter takes effect. As a preliminary, the husband is required to deposit with the court a get for his first wife, together with an irrevocable authority for the court to have the get delivered to his first wife as soon as she is able and willing to receive it from an agent appointed by the husband at the request of the court. However, in the case where the hetter is given because of the first wife's insanity, it is customary to give her a new get when she recovers, rather than the one previously deposited with the court, as some doubt could be cast on the latter's validity, since it was the wife's insanity that made it impossible to deliver the get to her originally and there may therefore possibly be other legal objections to its validity. The deposited get is usually only delivered to her if she is in danger of becoming a deserted wife (see *Agunah; Arukh ha-Shulhan, EH 1:26; Ozar ha-Posekim, EH 1:72, 30-31). Furthermore, the husband is also generally required to deposit with the court the amount of the wife's ketubbah in cash or provide adequate security (Bah, EH 119; Sh. Ar, EH; Beit Shemu'el 1, n. 23; Arukh ha-Shulhan, EH 1:25; Ozar ha-Posekim, 1:72, 23-24). Some authorities are of the opinion that the husband must also deposit with the court, or adequately secure in like manner, such sum as the court may determine to cover the wife's maintenance and medical expenses (Ozar ha-Posekim, EH 1:72, 29).

Polygamy in the Modern State of Israel

At a national rabbinic conference called in 1950 by the chief rabbis of Israel, an enactment was passed generally making monogamy (apart from the above-mentioned permissions) binding upon all Jews irrespective of their communal affiliations. This takkanah, however, does not render a second marriage invalid according to biblical law, and therefore, if such a marriage does take place, it can be dissolved only by divorce. The criminal law of the state, however, renders it an offense on pain of imprisonment for a married person to contract another marriage without permission of a Rabbinal court (Penal Law Amendment (Bigamy) Law, 5719-1959). Nevertheless, for Jewish citizens no offense is committed if permission to marry a second wife was given by a final judgment of a rabbinical court and approved by the two chief rabbis of Israel. The latter's approval is accepted as conclusive proof that the permission was given according to the law. Special provisions relating to the grant of this permission are laid down in the Takkanot ha-Diyyun be-Vattei ha-Din ha-Rabbaniyyim be-Yisrael, 5720-1960.

 The following are quotes from posts by Anne Neiwirth on the Prodigy God of the Book Board Topic: Judaism, Subject Adultery:

When you examine laws pertaining to sexual relationships, you have to examine them under Biblical law, and then under Rabbinic law, as the two are not the same. You will discover the inherent inequity in the laws, as things which hold for men do not hold for women. For example, according to biblical law, a man was permitted many wives, and also concubines (which one could equate with either mistresses or concubines). The only way a man could be an adulterer, under biblical law, was if he had relationships with a MARRIED women (i.e. another man's property). Relations with any unmarried women did not constitute adultery for a man. On the other hand, a married women was an adulteress if she had relations with any man not her husband. However, it seems that an adulterous woman was punished, and her husband was then forced to divorce her. An adulterous man, however, could remain married to his wife with impunity.

The Rabbis of the Talmud said that four wives was the realistic maximum for a man, so that he could devote the proper amount of time for sexual relations with each of them. In the middle ages, the takkanah of Rabbenu Gershom forbid polygamy among Ashkenazic Jews, and also forbade a man to divorce his wife without her consent.